Sex and myth-logy

The Times Of India

Sexual gratification lies between the two ears rather than the legs. It is the strength that matters and not the length. More than quantity, it is quality of the sexual act that is important.

Sexual myths abound, but the facts still remain lesser known. As sex continues to be deemed as taboo in our society, not to be talked about overtly, nagging doubts about sex is what makes people inquisitive as they end up picking up myths from random sources. These pervasive myths can act as the biggest wreckers, ruining the fun of a sexual act. While nobody knows where the erroneous beliefs originated from, these myths still make their way into every bedroom. Let's hear from experts about the subject...

Dr. Prakash Kothari, foremost sexologist and advisor, World Association for Sexual Health, says, "It's strange when 7 out of 10 patients with impotency and premature ejaculation issues attribute their problem to the masturbation habits. This is such a prevalent myth."

Recalling another such instance Dr. Shivani Sachdev, fertility expert, Phoenix Hospital, shares, "Patients come to me with problems of conceiving. They have blindly believed that anal sex would help them get pregnant. "

The most common myth - 'size does matter' finds its clarification in a logical explanation that states the normal length of a male organ is 4 inches and the sexual length 6 inches. Establishing another reason for this myth, Rita Gangwani, image enhancer and personality architect says, "Most men associate their value with their organ size and also with their macho personality, thus they erroneously believe that the dimensions of their penis are of great importance for sexual techniques and gratification."

These scientifically incorrect notions disrupt one's sexual life in a big way. They lead to psychological symptoms of anxiety, physical symptoms, and most importantly affect one's sexual life adversely. Understanding the facts behind sex is of utmost importance. "Wrong notions paralyse the sexual response between partners. With so many baseless perceptions in one's mind, a level of curiosity creeps in and one can't be anxious and sensuous at the same time," exclaims Dr. Kothari.

Rita Gangwani elaborates, "When you operate under false assumptions, you are not able to give your mate what he truly wants and needs. People who rely too much on popular perceptions of sex miss out on that extra dimension."

So, the next time you find yourself trapped in a web of myths related to 'sex', talk about the things you hold to be true around sex and sexuality frankly with your partner for a satisfying sex life.